Parents, we are usually concerned about how to improve relationships within our family nucleus. Families go through different stages and it is important to know how we can adapt to them more efficiently. That is why below we present some tips to improve relationships in your family.
1. Being available
This means that as parents we must have the availability to take care of our children and our partner. For example, to your teenager who has just been suspended from school, you can not say "we'll talk about it over the weekend" because probably the end of the week, another situation has happened. Do not say I do not have time for your children, and try to fix conflict situations in the moment.
This means that as parents we must have the availability to take care of our children and our partner. For example, to your teenager who has just been suspended from school, you can not say "we'll talk about it over the weekend" because probably the end of the week, another situation has happened. Do not say I do not have time for your children, and try to fix conflict situations in the moment.
2. Encourage autonomy
Mainly with children, encourage the idea of personal autonomy and how important it is to learn to do things for themselves, always based on their possibilities.
Mainly with children, encourage the idea of personal autonomy and how important it is to learn to do things for themselves, always based on their possibilities.
3. Break with routine
Routine is an enemy in relationships and in general in the family. So, a key point is that we can break with that routine from time to time and infect our family by taking the initiative to do new things or visit new places. Most of the time it only takes a little creativity and initiative.
Routine is an enemy in relationships and in general in the family. So, a key point is that we can break with that routine from time to time and infect our family by taking the initiative to do new things or visit new places. Most of the time it only takes a little creativity and initiative.
4. Recognize the limitations
First we must recognize and accept our limitations and those of our loved ones. What is important is not to criticize the other member of the family in front of others, for example, to judge the couple in front of the children or to compare our children with each other. The most advisable when there is a situation about it, is to speak it in private with the person in question.
First we must recognize and accept our limitations and those of our loved ones. What is important is not to criticize the other member of the family in front of others, for example, to judge the couple in front of the children or to compare our children with each other. The most advisable when there is a situation about it, is to speak it in private with the person in question.
5. Recognize the other person's virtues
Something of the utmost importance, just as we are able to recognize our limitations and those of our family members, we also have to recognize the virtues of ourselves and those of others. And this not only implies recognizing them, but also letting them know when was the last time you told your spouse or your children something flattering?
Something of the utmost importance, just as we are able to recognize our limitations and those of our family members, we also have to recognize the virtues of ourselves and those of others. And this not only implies recognizing them, but also letting them know when was the last time you told your spouse or your children something flattering?
6. Moderate the use of electronic devices
Currently both we and our children are focused on electronic devices, and spend more time hanging around what is happening around them, than what is happening in front of us in our own family. So a good solution is to moderate the use of these devices, and not only our children, but also ourselves.
Currently both we and our children are focused on electronic devices, and spend more time hanging around what is happening around them, than what is happening in front of us in our own family. So a good solution is to moderate the use of these devices, and not only our children, but also ourselves.
7. Speaking less and listening more
A common mistake that parents make is not listening to our children or our partner and only giving them sermons about what they have or do not have to do. We would have to make the purpose to devote at least 75% of the time to listen and 25% to speak, with that we would reinforce the trust and our children and our partner would feel more listened to.
A common mistake that parents make is not listening to our children or our partner and only giving them sermons about what they have or do not have to do. We would have to make the purpose to devote at least 75% of the time to listen and 25% to speak, with that we would reinforce the trust and our children and our partner would feel more listened to.
8. Have realistic aspirations
Of course it is important to aspire high, but we also have to be realistic based on our capabilities and our personal resources, as well as those of others. Maintaining high aspirations about us, our partner or children can lead us to over demand or over demand.
Implementing these simple but valuable tips can help improve relationships in your family, so do not wait any longer, and put them into practice.
Of course it is important to aspire high, but we also have to be realistic based on our capabilities and our personal resources, as well as those of others. Maintaining high aspirations about us, our partner or children can lead us to over demand or over demand.
Implementing these simple but valuable tips can help improve relationships in your family, so do not wait any longer, and put them into practice.